IN A NUTSHELL
Overspending, broken relationships and gifts where the novelty wears off - Christmas does not have to be superficial. Do a gut check and ask yourself 'do you make these three mistakes'?The Full Story
In England, we do ‘Black Friday’ in a very civilised way, yet Christmas still manages to be stressful. You’ve probably had that feeling where your heart skips a beat as Groupon bombard you with huge discounts and Amazon are sending a dozen ‘last minute deals’. Consequently, you feel the pressure mount as you try and find the perfect gift, get the house decorated and reach out to relatives that are estranged. When you hit January and the post-Christmas blues set in, you wonder to yourself ‘what the heck was that all about?’.
Are you getting lost in the fray? Do you make these three common mistakes each year?
[ictt-tweet-blockquote]The difference between a mad Christmas and a meaningful one is what we make matter the most. [/ictt-tweet-blockquote]
1 ) Spending what you don’t have
Every year we are fed deals that entice us to spend spend spend. There is nothing wrong with buying gifts, and that includes expensive ones! However, if you can’t afford it ask ‘Is this worth it’? I don’t mean the person you’re buying it for isn’t worth it, but is this the most significant way to show your appreciation, and will you be paying a debt all year for it? Don’t feel guilty about dialling the budget down.
2) Missing the opportunity to reach out
Let’s face it; our guard is down at Christmas time. There are opportunities for you to say things that you couldn’t ordinarily say. During the holiday’s, hearts are softer, and loneliness is more pressing. Sometimes we fall out with people, and it is a tremendous source of pain. Think of that person who makes you feel like you’ve missed a step when you think about them. Is this Christmas the time where you can offer an olive branch, even a simple ‘hey, genuinely wishing you a happy Christmas’ can go a long way to tearing down walls.
3) Valuing a gift over the moment
I don’t know if you have any traditions, or they just don’t seem as important but think about it for a moment; what do you remember from Christmas the most? Is it the presents? The food? Or is it the people, the conversations and the memories? We remember those moments more than anything because people matter to us. Having something you do every year can create space for significant times, – milestones in your relationships. They don’t happen by accident; you have to build them. Make it a priority to start, or keep, a tradition.
It seems like from a young age, we are trained to look forward to the ‘gifts’ part of Christmas. No doubt gifts are brilliant, but the truth is that you have several moments in December and early January where you can have an experience that is more significant than opening a present. Take a walk. Go to a carol service. Make a gift. Build memories.
There are tons of ways for you to build something more profound this Christmas.
Over the next three weeks, we are going to look at how you can shape these three things and put them into action.
What are some of the things that have helped you build a meaningful Christmas?
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